I am back in my native Canadia (as one very drunk British man put it). Canada is home, it is the land of friendly and open people, the land of good times and especially "aha!" moments. It was on my 3rd night back that I was backhanded by a lightbulb moment courtesy of a good friend.
I was having dinner with A, as I will call her, who is very single, about as much as I am (which is saying something). Over a plate of chicken fingers and fries, A tells me she is now referring to herself as a "QuirkyAlone". Having never heard the term I asked her what it meant to be quirkyalone and she defined it as: "A person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple." She didn't say this verbatim to me, but it was a very English Major explanation (she knows words). Afterwards, as the definition sank in, I looked at her and said, "A, I think I may be a quirkyalone." She nodded her head sagely and said, "Yes, I think you might be one of us." Oh my God, I was a "one of us" now and not in the way I always thought I would be. My hope had always been that I would find the perfect guy and finally be a "one of us" in the couple realm. Finally I would be part of the couple scene, the twosome world, the relationship universe, the land of coupledom. Now that dream was shattered by the knowledge that I very well could be a quirkyalone (ummm, emphasis on the "alone" part).
Needless to say, I wasn't very comfortable with my status being anything with the word "alone" in it. It seemed rather depressing, far more so than being labeled "single" and I thought nothing could be worse than that. So, using the beauty that is technology (aka the Internet) I decided to go on quirkyalone.net and figure out if I really was a quirkyalone. How would I find this out? Well, according to A she took "the"quiz and scored 99 which meant she was very much a quirkyalone. I thought there was no way I would score that high and yet, somehow, someway, I scored 101. Do you know what they (as in the website people) told me? That a score of 101 meant I was VERY quirkyalone. Consolation prize? I may not be romancing a single person, but I am romancing the world. Sounds beautiful right? Not! You can't make me feel better about this with pretty words! 101?! Good God, I beat A!
I scan the website to find out if there was some way to make a score of 101 something of a triumph. Perhaps, being VERY quirkyalone meant something good, maybe it meant that I was going to win a million dollars. However, that was not to be the case (ah, it was a long shot anyway). With continued reading and increased enlightenment, I realized that the quiz was right. I am very quirkyalone. There was no way around it. I was "deeply single", and as the website states, I have "no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. I want a miracle. Out of millions, I have to find the one who will understand". I thought to myself, this is me! I want my miracle! I deserve that miracle! It also said that as a quirkyalone I believed it was "better to be untethered and open to possibility: living for the exhilaration of meeting someone new, of not knowing what the night will bring," and that I "seek momentous meetings." It's true, I do seek those moments, I live for those moments. I rarely get them, but boy do I ever look forward to them! Ah, I think for all my fighting I have found out who and what I am. I am part of the small 5% of the world that is single because we hold relationships to a higher standard. I believe that being single is not a death sentence, but being in a relationship for the sake of being in one just might be. I am a quirkyalone, a "one of us" along with Cher, Joan of Arc, Katharine Hepburn, George Clooney and Cleopatra. We are the prolific 5% quirkyalones and I'm okay with that. As it happens, being quirkyalone may not be a death sentence, but it may be a life sentence for a person is a quirkyalone forever. The upside, though, is that "when one quirkyalone finds another, oooh la la. The earth quakes." I'm hoping that earthquaking will be coming from me and one George Clooney. Now that deserves an OOOH LA LA!
QuirkyAlones....UNITE!
I was having dinner with A, as I will call her, who is very single, about as much as I am (which is saying something). Over a plate of chicken fingers and fries, A tells me she is now referring to herself as a "QuirkyAlone". Having never heard the term I asked her what it meant to be quirkyalone and she defined it as: "A person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple." She didn't say this verbatim to me, but it was a very English Major explanation (she knows words). Afterwards, as the definition sank in, I looked at her and said, "A, I think I may be a quirkyalone." She nodded her head sagely and said, "Yes, I think you might be one of us." Oh my God, I was a "one of us" now and not in the way I always thought I would be. My hope had always been that I would find the perfect guy and finally be a "one of us" in the couple realm. Finally I would be part of the couple scene, the twosome world, the relationship universe, the land of coupledom. Now that dream was shattered by the knowledge that I very well could be a quirkyalone (ummm, emphasis on the "alone" part).
Needless to say, I wasn't very comfortable with my status being anything with the word "alone" in it. It seemed rather depressing, far more so than being labeled "single" and I thought nothing could be worse than that. So, using the beauty that is technology (aka the Internet) I decided to go on quirkyalone.net and figure out if I really was a quirkyalone. How would I find this out? Well, according to A she took "the"quiz and scored 99 which meant she was very much a quirkyalone. I thought there was no way I would score that high and yet, somehow, someway, I scored 101. Do you know what they (as in the website people) told me? That a score of 101 meant I was VERY quirkyalone. Consolation prize? I may not be romancing a single person, but I am romancing the world. Sounds beautiful right? Not! You can't make me feel better about this with pretty words! 101?! Good God, I beat A!
I scan the website to find out if there was some way to make a score of 101 something of a triumph. Perhaps, being VERY quirkyalone meant something good, maybe it meant that I was going to win a million dollars. However, that was not to be the case (ah, it was a long shot anyway). With continued reading and increased enlightenment, I realized that the quiz was right. I am very quirkyalone. There was no way around it. I was "deeply single", and as the website states, I have "no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. I want a miracle. Out of millions, I have to find the one who will understand". I thought to myself, this is me! I want my miracle! I deserve that miracle! It also said that as a quirkyalone I believed it was "better to be untethered and open to possibility: living for the exhilaration of meeting someone new, of not knowing what the night will bring," and that I "seek momentous meetings." It's true, I do seek those moments, I live for those moments. I rarely get them, but boy do I ever look forward to them! Ah, I think for all my fighting I have found out who and what I am. I am part of the small 5% of the world that is single because we hold relationships to a higher standard. I believe that being single is not a death sentence, but being in a relationship for the sake of being in one just might be. I am a quirkyalone, a "one of us" along with Cher, Joan of Arc, Katharine Hepburn, George Clooney and Cleopatra. We are the prolific 5% quirkyalones and I'm okay with that. As it happens, being quirkyalone may not be a death sentence, but it may be a life sentence for a person is a quirkyalone forever. The upside, though, is that "when one quirkyalone finds another, oooh la la. The earth quakes." I'm hoping that earthquaking will be coming from me and one George Clooney. Now that deserves an OOOH LA LA!
QuirkyAlones....UNITE!
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